It’s February and love is in the air! I have been wanting to write a dating post for a while now and since Valentine’s Day is this week I decided this would be the perfect time! I dated A LOT before I met my husband and I learned some things along the way that I want to share with every girl who is single and looking for the right guy. I remember when I was single that sometimes I felt like I would NEVER meet the right guy and get married! I eventually did and am now happily married so hang in there! The right guy will come and I am here to give some tips on making sure you find a guy that will treat you right! Here are my 12 dating tips every single girl should know:
#1 Develop a skill or hobby if you don’t already have one.
This may seem like an odd tip for dating but I think that it is always healthy to have something you do for yourself. Become engaged in something you enjoy doing. I think that your unique hobbies and interests is something that sets you apart. Also, when you work to develop yourself you become a more attractive person.
#2 Become the best version of yourself.
You usually date people who are on the same level as you physically, educationally, etc. so if you aren’t happy with something about yourself then work to change it! Being single is a great time to work on developing yourself and becoming a strong individual.
#3 Don’t always be available or drop your own plans.
Don’t cancel on your girlfriends just because a guy called you last second to see if you wanted to hang out! He should have called several days before because your time is valuable and you are a hot commodity! Also, this will let the guy know that if he really is interested in you that he needs to take the time to give you notice because you are a busy girl with your own schedule.
#4 Be happy on your own!
The biggest gift you can give your spouse is your own happiness! Never rely on a guy to make you happy! If you are single and unhappy then do things that make you happy. Work out, plan a trip with friends, or start a new hobby. Focus on developing yourself and your own talents.
#5 Don’t put up with guys who ask you on a date over text and don’t call you!
There is nothing better then waking up with a text from a guy you like. However, if he wants to go a date with you he should call you (in advance) and make plans!
#6 He picks you up for dates.
When I was dating my husband I lived about 15 minutes away from him. Even if we were just hanging out at his apartment he would always come get me and then we would go back to his place. He defiantly always picked me up when we were going out on dates also. This is part of being a gentleman. Also, make sure he opens your door! Chivalry is not dead ladies!
#7 Make sure you can hold a conversation.
The first night I hung out with my husband we talked for like 4 hours and basically told each other our life stories. After that night, I knew there was something very special there. Communication in general is one of the most important things in a strong relationship. Being able to share personal things or laugh together is so important. The flow of your conversations should feel natural and comfortable.
#8 Make sure you are his #1 priority.
Is the guy you are dating “busy” a lot? Does he put other people or interests ahead of you? This could be a red flag. If a guy is really interested in you he will want to be with you all the time and will make sacrifices to do so. Don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t make you feel like you are the most important thing in the world to him!
#9 Pay attention to your gut instinct!
If something tells you that something is not right about the relationship then listen to it! I always felt at peace when dating my husband. Even when we got engaged it was such an easy decision to say yes. “Easiest answer of my life”. I know that sounds cliche but I did know 100% that I wanted to marry him. Don’t feel rushed or pressured into committing to a relationship if you aren’t 100% sure that it is right. If your heart isn’t fully invested into a relationship then there is probably a reason. Do some soul searching and figure out what it is. Always be honest with your feelings when dating someone!
#10 Listen to your friends and family!
Your friends and family love you and know you best. They might be able to see warning signs that you miss because you are caught up in the feeling. Unfortunately, I do have a few friends who were warned by friends and family while dating their future husbands but ignored them and are now divorced. I am not by any means saying this is always the case! But if people who love you approach you with something they are worried about in your relationship, give it some thought and consider what they saying my be true.
#11 Get to know their family.
How does he treat his mother? How does he treat his sisters? How does his father treat his mother? How do his brothers treat their wives (if they are married)? My husbands sister lived close to us when we were dating and still does. Something that stood out to me when we were dating was that he was always willing to help her and treated her well.
#12 Stop stressing!
When I was single I used to hate it when people would say, “the right guy will come when you least except it”. But guess what…that is exactly what happened to me! After I graduated from college I got a job and lived in my same college town. After about a year I decided that I needed a change of pace and decided that I was going to move to Arizona. I first moved home to Las Vegas and was only planning to be there for a few months. But I never made it to Arizona. I met my husband 1 week after moving home to Las Vegas! And I promise I was NOT expecting that! It was seriously the last place on earth I thought I would meet my husband!
The right guy will come into your life when the time is right! Now is the time to focus on developing yourself and your own interests! It will make you a better partner when you do find the right guy!
Sincerely,
shari jean
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